Be less intimidating to men
Be less intimidating to men
You still think you know everything about him before he’s opened his mouth. You’ve worked so hard to get here, to be a success, to look decent, to own your own place, but romantically, you feel like you’re being handed a giant shit sandwich for your efforts.
See also: Your Alpha Personality Makes You Do These 5 Things People SIMPLY Don’t Get Some men rely on good looks and a few pick-up lines to impress a woman. They need much more from a man to be impressed (if they are to be impressed at all).
It’s not enough for men to simply show up and thus sweep women off their feet. Men who are scared of these women are often confused with these two terms.
Actually, most of them don’t even get the difference between a bitch and an Alpha.
Most men don’t know what to do with that.” I don’t want to resent men for owning up to their own feelings of insecurity — after all, they’re hurt by this cesspool of misogyny, too. I resent men for owning up to their feelings of insecurity! My instincts say I should have empathy, but my volcano brain says: Why on earth should I have to hand-hold another grown adult through acceptance of my awesomeness? It puts a script in a guy’s hand before you’ve even seen him clearly, the same way that you claim that merely being attractive, successful, and clear about your desires makes it impossible for men to see you.
I just want to be an awesome, messy, wonderful, horrible person alongside someone else doing their version of being awesome, messy, wonderful, and horrible? It’s downright dehumanizing to a man you don’t know for you to enter the interaction assuming that he’s so fucking weak that he can’t handle a beautiful, confident woman who knows her own mind and heart.
They want brains, looks, humor…They want the whole package—because they themselves are the whole package.
They expect men to be equal to them because they won’t ever settle for less than they deserve.As long as your contact with men is clouded by this assumption, you’ll be subconsciously blocking them from getting to know you as a real live human being.You’ll think that you’re smoothly presenting your best self or whatever the hell, but underneath that smooth exterior there will be a conflicted, roiling, angry sea of premature assumptions about who you are (great, rejected) and who he is (afraid, weak, rejecting) and how it will all play out (crash and burn). So it’s not just This Dude, it’s The President, it’s Men Today or Men Always. It’s all men.” My go-to Anxiety Time move is to make the personal Political, the micro Macro.They don’t understand that Alphas are not dictators. They are simply strong and independent—they won’t let anyone fool and play them.