Consequences of dating married men
Consequences of dating married men
You’d want more for the women you care about, and you should want more for yourself too.
Here’s the truth: he is not going to commit to you. You believe you’re not responsible for the feelings and lives of people you don’t know. She doesn’t bring to the table all the things that you do. I know about girls my age who are single and up for any adventure in sex and love.You’re thinking that if it makes you happy and makes him happy, then that’s what really matters. She’s simply not desirable anymore, so her marriage failing won’t be because of you. This woman couldn’t understand what it’s like to be in your position. I know that if my husband searched for an affair, he wouldn’t have to look far. The selfishness of having a relationship with a man who has a wife at home baffles me. In many ways they can seem more mature, attractive and have their lives more together than their shambolic single counterparts. Too many nights of looking stunning in your new outfit only to be admired by the cat as you’re let down yet again. In the unlikely event of being seen out anywhere by anyone he knows, you will be introduced as his niece/ cousin/ babysitter. If he has kids it’s highly unlikely he wants more, even though your imagination is working overtime dreaming of your own little family together. You can never just phone him when you’re having a bad day. And sadly, as some grow bored of what they have at home, there’s apparently no shortage of them looking to cheat. As well as the big, glaring explanations for avoiding these – feeling bad about yourself and playing a part in ruining a relationship and possibly a family – there’s other things that will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth. If she were anything like you, she would do the same. Dating a married man is probably one of the worst decisions you could make. When you date a married man, everyone involved loses.
The affair will only cause pain for you, him, his wife, and if applicable, his children. Before you make the huge decision to ruin several lives, you need to consider all the ramifications of an affair … Men who find out will think you’re an easy target for unwanted attention. In fact you may be just the latest in a long line of ego boosts that he obviously needs. If you are (un)lucky enough to have him eventually leave his wife you would always wonder… I had tried really hard up to that point to hold it back, honestly. I think part of me recognized that she was much smarter and more modest than me. This fire was burning in me, a fire that burned just like that second date: I was in love. Marriage, quicker than I was ready for, did this thing: it started sucking away that emotion. In other words, it was in the practicality that I found the love I was looking for. That fire I felt, it was simply that: emotional fire. I think that might be a big part of the reason the divorce rate is so high in this country. It’s time that we changed the conversation about love. Because until we do, adultery will continue to be common. I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. But as time has gone on, I also realized that she knew something that I didn’t. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to. No matter how the situation plays out, you’ll be the bad guy.